Bachelorette Party Invites Got You Down?
Here’s a list of people you might want to steer clear of when sending out your invites.
Inviting Your Mother:
Have you seen Lorelai and Rory’s mother-daughter relationship in Gilmore Girls?
Well first, if you haven’t seen Gilmore Girls, then you should, like right now (you can thank me later), but my point is that they are extremely close. More like best friends than mother and daughter. For those of you have that type of relationship with your mother, want her there and know that everyone will have a great time, then of course invite her! But if not. I highly recommend you don’t and I’m pretty sure your mother would agree with me on this. Bringing your mother along might make it uncomfortable for the rest of the girls at your party. Chances are no one will feel like they can talk about the good stuff (you know what I mean) with a mother present, so that right there, can dampen the mood of the party. You might have the type of mother who wants to go, but you know is very conservative and will basically keel over at some of the things you and your girlfriends want to do. Do you seriously want her to see you drink out of a penis shaped straw or have her watch as your friends give you, well…toys, which are typically given as a gag gift, or a legitimate gift at every party alongside other penis shaped items. I’m not sure you do. Listen I know, you love your mother, heck I love my mother, but that doesn’t mean she needs to go to the bachelorette party! Just give her the edited details the next day.
Oh, and in case your mother wants to go so that she can feel like she’s a part of your life and your wedding, and telling her she can’t come to the party will upset her, tell her that you don’t think the two of you will be able to actually spend time together at the party and offer to do something before the party, just the two of you. A mother-daughter day is bound to make her happy, and you happy as well. The closer you get to your wedding, chances are the more emotional everyone will be and sometimes you just want to spend some quality time with your mom.
People not invited to the wedding:
Honestly, this is just basic wedding etiquette. It’s a bit rude on your part to invite them to the party, but not them to your big day. Inevitably, everyone will start discussing the upcoming wedding and your plans for it and it will become awkward for them. Don’t do that to someone. If she’s someone you want to party with and celebrate your upcoming nuptials with, then she should be someone you also want at your wedding.
Sorority Sisters:
I know, sisters for life, but lets face it, there were some sisters who you had NOTHING to do with other than the fact that you saw them across the room at meetings, events, parties, what have you. You’re not required to invite everyone from your sorority. Want to invite them to the wedding? No problem, go for it! but do you really want to spend your last night as a free woman with a bunch of girls that you don’t even know? I think not.
Extended family members on the future groom’s side:
Sure, you are marrying into his family which makes them your family as well but do you actually know these people? Are these women you have met and spent time with? Do you even like them? If the answer to those questions are no, don’t invite them! I’m sure there will be at least one person who gets offended that they aren’t invited but it’s YOUR wedding. It’s YOUR bachelorette party. You get to make the decisions here. What if that cousin your future mother-in-law wants you to invite is the go-to gossiper in the family. Do you really want what happens, or what’s said, at your party to become common fodder to your new family? No. I don’t think you do. Bachelorette parties are sacred. They are for you and your closest girls and/or guys to come together to celebrate this huge change in your life. Plus, you’ll have to relive that night every time you see that gossiping family member at any, and all, family events.
Co-workers:
I hope you all know this, but in case you don’t, You DO NOT have to invite your coworkers. You can of course, but don’t feel obligated in any way to invite them to your party. Don’t be sucked into those doe eyes when a coworker comes to you about your wedding and wants to hear all about your plans for your party and drops subtle, or not so subtle, hints about how she’d love to go with you. Go ahead and invite her to the wedding if you want but don’t feel obligated to invite her to your party. Are you BFFs? Do you even talk about more than what’s going on at work? Do you even talk on a regular basis? No? Then don’t stress. She might act hurt, but that’s her problem not yours.
ANYONE who will stress you out:
I mean, this is just Wedding 101. Keep the people who are high maintenance, judgmental, hard to be around, and just flat out annoying away from you. It’s your night out!!! You want to enjoy it and you should enjoy it!! You don’t need someone to bring you down, it’s just not right.
Now, with these thoughts in mind, send out your invitations/e-vites/bat signals,etc and enjoy your party!
Love,
That Bachelorette Show
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